Thank you is the operative word

Reproduced below is an article I read today in Reader’s digest – Feb. 2009 issue. It reminded me of the time, about 4 years ago, when I listed out over 100 reasons why I am the luckiest person, while going for my usual morning walk from my son Vijay’s house in Baton Rouge.

Thank you is the operative word by Deborah Norville

Some days you just want to stay in bed and hope the world forgets you exist. David Patrick Columbia was having one of those days. New to New York City he was worn down by the hustle and bustle, no longer excited and proud about relocating as he had been weeks earlier. He’d imagined himself a hot young talent taking the magazine world by storm, only to end up doing a boring work as a low-level assistant on a barely making it salary. He couldn’t afford his own place and felt uncomfortable sponging off a friend.

“I was rethinking everything – my ability as a writer, my career choice”, he recalls. That Saturday morning, he wanted to stay in bed. But no, he had to fetch a photo work. 

It was cold, grey and damp when David headed across town. “I don’t know what possessed me, but I decided to start counting things along the way that made me happy,” he says. “I just wanted to see how many pleasing things I came across.”

First on his list a mother walking her baby, all bundled up in a stroller. “That little face just made me smile,” he says. Then he saw a jet in the sky. “Flying has always captivated me.” And so it went. From the sizzling smells at restaurants to eye-catching store-window displays, David acknowledged one thing after another that brightened his mood. By the time he picked up that photo he was feeling thankful he’d made the move to the Big Apple.

“I was reminded that I lived in an exciting, interesting and invigorating place”,  he says. “Whenever I’m feeling the down, I do this. It makes me feel better.” It’s been more than 20 years since. David took his “walk of thanks”. Now he is a successful entrepreneur in the media business and says his gratitude stroll helps him stay focused to this day.

What if instead of wallowing in our misery, we all chose to focus on being valued by a dear friend, for example, or the memory of colleague’s face when she receives a surprise birthday cake at work, or the smooth ride we’ve had to work  in the past week? As science is now proving, feeling grateful can actually make us healthier, literally. Practising gratitude, acknowledging the blessings in our lives and making it a point to recognize the good things can change us positively. We’ll sleep better and exercise more. We’ll feel more optimistic. We’ll be more alert and active. And if we do this over a period of time, we’ll realize that we’re making progress towards our life goals.